Embracing Your Ideas: Breaking Free from the Apology Cycle
Ever noticed how we tend to start our sentences with a hesitant “but” or a little “I’m sorry”? Let’s dive into why we do that and how we can break free from this apologetic habit together, shall we?
1. The Apology Tango: So, ever wondered why we kick off with apologies or self-doubt? Blame it on a society that loves to jump to conclusions. Since we were knee-high, we’ve been told our ideas were ‘silly’ or ‘unrealistic.’ No wonder we’ve become masters at apologizing for our brilliant thoughts.
2. Let’s Flip the Script: Here’s a fun thought — instead of apologizing or doubting ourselves, let’s switch things up! Instead of the classic “Oh, my idea might be silly, but…” try this on for size: “I think this way, what do you think?” Let’s see how that changes the game.
3. Unleash Your Ideas: Picture this: You’ve got an idea, and instead of tiptoeing around it with apologies, you confidently say, “Hey, I have an idea. What are your thoughts?” No more labeling your ideas as wacky or irrelevant. It’s time to let them shine!
4. Wisdom from Owen Lindley: Ever heard of the wise Owen Lindley? Let’s take a quote from Own Lindley — “You know what breaks me? When someone is visibly excited about a feeling or an idea or a hope or a risk taken, and they tell you about it but preface it with: “Sorry, this is dumb but-.” Don’t do that. I don’t know who came here before me or who conditioned you to think you had to apologize or feel obtuse. But not here. Dream so big it’s silly. Laugh so hard it’s obnoxious. Love so much it’s impossible. And don’t you ever feel unintelligent. And don’t you ever apologize. And don’t you ever shrink so you can squeeze yourself into small places and small minds. Grow. It’s a big world. You fit. I promise.
So, the next time you catch yourself saying, “Sorry, I have an idea,” take a beat, remember Lindley’s words, and confidently own your thoughts. Embrace your uniqueness, and watch as your ideas sparkle without unnecessary apologies. Because you, my friend, are a shining light
This piece is inspired by Ankur Warikoo’s Woice Spotify episode titled ‘Buddhu.’ I thoroughly enjoyed the episode and highly recommend giving it a listen.
